Being a parent is hard - it is a roller coaster of emotions.
One minute you are laughing and joking. The next you are wiping a kids tears. Or breaking up a fight. Making a lesson out of the events that just happened.
But you are pretty much always tired!
I have been a mom for just over 3 years now. There are many times when I have questioned if I am doing the right thing for me or the kids. But I am sure that has to be normal. Every mom (or dad) questions what they are doing and how they are raising their kids at one point or another.
Some moments are easy. They just flow. Things go good for a while, then it seems like everything just falls apart at the same time. Most of the time you are just left with your head spinning trying to grasp the situation at hand and how it went from laughs and giggles to smacking, yelling and crying.
Usually there is no way to figure out how it goes from good to bad and back again!
There have been numerous times where I have had to remind myself that I am not their friend, I am their mom. I am responsible for how they grow up and how they act in the years to come... Which means that when I say "you will finish your food or you will get nothing else at all the rest of the evening" - I have to stand by what I say. I cannot go back on it. Even though it is hard. I struggle with feeling like a mean mom - or if I am doing what is right for my kids.
One struggle I have is how to rationalize with a 3 year old... Like just today she started crying and screaming about how she wanted to go home. Which thoroughly confused me since we were home. We had not left yet today. So I told her, "Baby, we are home..." in the most calmest tone I could have with her. But that did not calm her down. At all. She cried and cried -- while in her own room -- about how she wanted to go home. I really did not know what to say to her. And just as soon as she broke down, she was fine again. Which left me so confused and still trying to figure out what happened.
Which brings me back to my point.
Being a parent is hard. You have a roller coaster of emotions. You second guess yourself all the time. You rationalize your parenting style and judge other parents for their decisions.
There will never be a perfect parent. There will never be a perfect way to raise a kid.
However - there are a lot of wrong ways to raise a kid. A lot of ways that people are messing up our future by not disciplining their children and letting them run the household. They do not give rules or expectations to their children. And let them tell them what they want to do all the time. (Which, yes, there is a time and place for that - but it should not be how the house is run...)
So let's just remember that we are all trying. We are all doing what we can to keep our children safe and happy. So do what you can to raise your children to the best you can. But remember, you are not your child's best friend! You are their parent. You set the rules. Not the kid. You tell the kids what they can or cannot do. You do not ask them what they want to do.
Sincerely,
A Mom Trying To Do Her Best
Tuesday, November 15, 2016
Thursday, November 10, 2016
Political Post --- You have been warned!
Well, it is official - we have elected a new president for our country as of last night. Right now, there is a lot of talk about the election and how things played out. But let me take it back a bit here...
The last eight years we have had the same president running our country... Now, just to set the record straight, I did not vote for him either time he ran. Maybe that is part of why I was not fond of him, but maybe there is more.
See, when he was voted in, history was made in this country by electing the first black man ever to be the president of our country. So for many, this was a racial victory. For others, they just thought that he was a better candidate. And over the eight years there was a lot of contention between people who agreed with him and his policies, and those who did not. There was a lot continually going on and in a way it split the country into two separate, if not three separate, parts.
When we entered into an election year - many were excited. Okay, I think most of the country was excited for one reason or another. With new leadership there always comes new policies and new ideas of what is best for the country.
This election came down to Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton...
One a business man who has never been involved in any politics but has built his empire off hard work. Someone who could not be bought by anyone and even made his campaign on the fact that he truly just wanted to make America a great place to live again. If elected, he would be the first president in a long time that was not what has become an office of "career politicians".
Our other candidate, if elected, would be the first woman president in our country. (So again, more history to be made in our country...maybe.) She is the wife of a former president as well as been involved in politics in DC for years since. Even though, one would think that this would make a good candidate for president, in this case, I do not feel like it would. She was constantly under investigation for one thing or another, and very careless in her talks and the way she handled classified materials.
The problem is - to many, there really was no good choice for who should run this country....however that is where it gets slightly tricky. Or maybe not.
For me, I personally like to see someone running our country who has served in the military since that is a big deal. After 15 plus years in military service, I like to know that my Commander in Chief understands what I have been through and what it is like to serve in the military. But this year, we did not have an option that has served in the military. So therefore, there had to be other things to look at for who to vote for.
Which brings me to why I chose to vote for Donald Trump. My vote may not be the popular one, and honestly I did not even have to tell you who got my vote. But I did not agree with majority of what Hillary Clinton stood for in her campaign. While I do not think that Mr. Trump is perfect (let's be honest, none of us are! We have all made mistakes in our lives and he chose to not run and hide from his, but let everyone scrutinize him for them while still maintaining class... oh wait, I got off on a tangent... sorry!)... I felt that he was the best person for the job. That is it. Plain and simple.
**Side note - it is now Thursday night... I had to take my daughter to the ER yesterday for a fever of 104.8 so I am just now getting back to finishing this blog...**
I know that there are a lot of people who do not think that Mr. Trump will be good for our country... There are a lot of people (me included) that do not feel that Mr. Obama was good for our country... And that is okay! Yes, I said it is okay to feel like he is not the person for the job. I do not feel that we should criticize each other for our own thoughts and opinions. No one can tell me how to feel or what to think. That is all my own. I have to make the decisions for myself.
Which brings me to another point. I have read tons and tons of messages today about people who are upset that Mr. Trump won - but they are doing things that are very un-American about it. Burning the American flag has nothing to do with who won the presidency. All it does is make you look stupid and is a slap in the face to those of us who have served this country honoring that flag (no matter who was our Commander in Chief!).
Oh and do not get me started on the kids who are in college and had to have classes and tests cancelled or have a therapy dog brought in to console them after they learned that Mr. Trump won the presidency. GET REAL! That is just a load of crap and these kids need to grow up! This is the result of a bunch of kids who were not taught how to lose! Yes, I said it. They are all given participation awards, and no one wants to hurt anyones feelings so they do not have a winner and loser in any of their sports or competitions or anything. Everyone is given a medal... Well, forgive me for saying this but we were not given medals for losing when I grew up! (Okay, well there was this one time that my soccer team had to lose 3 games to win second place but only because there were only 2 teams in the competition and we were way out played... all three games! Yes, we still played all three games even though we knew we had no chance at winning - because that is what you did!)
Needless to say, I think that no matter what side of the vote you were on... whether you wanted Mr. Trump or Hillary (or what about those hundreds of people who got up and went all the way to the polls just to write-in Harambe...you know, the dead gorilla...) or someone else to be our president... What we need to do now is what we have done every other election - CONTINUE TO PRAY!
I for one have been open and honest that I did not agree with or like pretty much anything that Mr. Obama did while he was in office as our CiC... But that does not mean that I did not pray for him and everyone in power in this country. And that is what I will continue to do even as Mr. Trump starts his transition into office.
And that is what you should do too. Let's stop fighting. Stop the hatred. Stop forming stupid hashtags about not supporting this man. Stop being stupid. And how about we all come together to embrace the way our country was formed...you know, by having a change in power every 4 or 8 years. It is not a surprise that Mr. Obama would be leaving office this January. So let's just take the time to pray for all our leadership and realize that there is a lot more important issues out there than protesting the person who was elected. If you do not like it, then get into politics and start making changes yourself. If you do not want to do that, then shut up, pray for those who are in our government and start acting like an American - one who is not entitled, but one who is grateful for this country.
Sincerely,
A white, female, Christian, republican, pro-gun, pro-life feminist
The last eight years we have had the same president running our country... Now, just to set the record straight, I did not vote for him either time he ran. Maybe that is part of why I was not fond of him, but maybe there is more.
See, when he was voted in, history was made in this country by electing the first black man ever to be the president of our country. So for many, this was a racial victory. For others, they just thought that he was a better candidate. And over the eight years there was a lot of contention between people who agreed with him and his policies, and those who did not. There was a lot continually going on and in a way it split the country into two separate, if not three separate, parts.
When we entered into an election year - many were excited. Okay, I think most of the country was excited for one reason or another. With new leadership there always comes new policies and new ideas of what is best for the country.
This election came down to Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton...
One a business man who has never been involved in any politics but has built his empire off hard work. Someone who could not be bought by anyone and even made his campaign on the fact that he truly just wanted to make America a great place to live again. If elected, he would be the first president in a long time that was not what has become an office of "career politicians".
Our other candidate, if elected, would be the first woman president in our country. (So again, more history to be made in our country...maybe.) She is the wife of a former president as well as been involved in politics in DC for years since. Even though, one would think that this would make a good candidate for president, in this case, I do not feel like it would. She was constantly under investigation for one thing or another, and very careless in her talks and the way she handled classified materials.
The problem is - to many, there really was no good choice for who should run this country....however that is where it gets slightly tricky. Or maybe not.
For me, I personally like to see someone running our country who has served in the military since that is a big deal. After 15 plus years in military service, I like to know that my Commander in Chief understands what I have been through and what it is like to serve in the military. But this year, we did not have an option that has served in the military. So therefore, there had to be other things to look at for who to vote for.
Which brings me to why I chose to vote for Donald Trump. My vote may not be the popular one, and honestly I did not even have to tell you who got my vote. But I did not agree with majority of what Hillary Clinton stood for in her campaign. While I do not think that Mr. Trump is perfect (let's be honest, none of us are! We have all made mistakes in our lives and he chose to not run and hide from his, but let everyone scrutinize him for them while still maintaining class... oh wait, I got off on a tangent... sorry!)... I felt that he was the best person for the job. That is it. Plain and simple.
**Side note - it is now Thursday night... I had to take my daughter to the ER yesterday for a fever of 104.8 so I am just now getting back to finishing this blog...**
I know that there are a lot of people who do not think that Mr. Trump will be good for our country... There are a lot of people (me included) that do not feel that Mr. Obama was good for our country... And that is okay! Yes, I said it is okay to feel like he is not the person for the job. I do not feel that we should criticize each other for our own thoughts and opinions. No one can tell me how to feel or what to think. That is all my own. I have to make the decisions for myself.
Which brings me to another point. I have read tons and tons of messages today about people who are upset that Mr. Trump won - but they are doing things that are very un-American about it. Burning the American flag has nothing to do with who won the presidency. All it does is make you look stupid and is a slap in the face to those of us who have served this country honoring that flag (no matter who was our Commander in Chief!).
Oh and do not get me started on the kids who are in college and had to have classes and tests cancelled or have a therapy dog brought in to console them after they learned that Mr. Trump won the presidency. GET REAL! That is just a load of crap and these kids need to grow up! This is the result of a bunch of kids who were not taught how to lose! Yes, I said it. They are all given participation awards, and no one wants to hurt anyones feelings so they do not have a winner and loser in any of their sports or competitions or anything. Everyone is given a medal... Well, forgive me for saying this but we were not given medals for losing when I grew up! (Okay, well there was this one time that my soccer team had to lose 3 games to win second place but only because there were only 2 teams in the competition and we were way out played... all three games! Yes, we still played all three games even though we knew we had no chance at winning - because that is what you did!)
Needless to say, I think that no matter what side of the vote you were on... whether you wanted Mr. Trump or Hillary (or what about those hundreds of people who got up and went all the way to the polls just to write-in Harambe...you know, the dead gorilla...) or someone else to be our president... What we need to do now is what we have done every other election - CONTINUE TO PRAY!
I for one have been open and honest that I did not agree with or like pretty much anything that Mr. Obama did while he was in office as our CiC... But that does not mean that I did not pray for him and everyone in power in this country. And that is what I will continue to do even as Mr. Trump starts his transition into office.
And that is what you should do too. Let's stop fighting. Stop the hatred. Stop forming stupid hashtags about not supporting this man. Stop being stupid. And how about we all come together to embrace the way our country was formed...you know, by having a change in power every 4 or 8 years. It is not a surprise that Mr. Obama would be leaving office this January. So let's just take the time to pray for all our leadership and realize that there is a lot more important issues out there than protesting the person who was elected. If you do not like it, then get into politics and start making changes yourself. If you do not want to do that, then shut up, pray for those who are in our government and start acting like an American - one who is not entitled, but one who is grateful for this country.
Sincerely,
A white, female, Christian, republican, pro-gun, pro-life feminist
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